THERAPIST NOTES: Choose People Who Choose You

There comes a point in your life where you need to stop chasing.

You stop performing. You stop trying to squeeze yourself into places that were never meant for you. You stop twisting yourself into smaller, easier versions of who you are, all just to be accepted.

Because something shifts. And you realise: you’re allowed to choose the people who choose you.

This is one of those reminders I’ve had to come back to more than once. So I wrote this note to myself, and to anyone else who’s ever wondered if they were too much, or not quite enough.

We spend so much time trying to belong. But real belonging doesn’t ask us to shape-shift. The right people won’t ask you to be less. They won’t disappear when things get messy. They won’t punish your sensitivity or avoid your truth. They won't push you away. They won't make you doubt your worth.

They’ll hold space. They’ll cheer for your joy and sit with your pain. They’ll be honest. Present. Real. You don’t have to convince them. And you definitely don’t have to earn it.

If you’ve been pouring your energy into people who can’t meet you where you are, make you feel used or make you feel not enough, then this is your permission to stop.

You’re allowed to be loved as you are. You’re allowed to be chosen, without auditioning for it.

With love, Lianne x

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